i ran into a friend of mine yesterday and she told me that she had just broken up with her fiance and called off their summer wedding. she told me the logic behind it all and i agreed that it sounded like the right decision. the part that struck me most was that she said in the two years plus they had dated she had forgotten who she was. she wasn't herself anymore, and needed to find that person again. i hope she finds her old self -- the one that has matured a whole lot in the past two years.